A day late (okay, a couple days…) and a buck short, but a mother’s love is ceaseless, unwavering and forever. So, I do want to personally apologize and shout out to my wonderful mama; she knows, better than anyone on this planet that procrastination is my favorite sport, and that the timeline that I run on is arbitrary (in my defense, time is an abstract concept, so really who’s to say what is right and who’s clock is wrong, ALSO – life is short, so I will spend my time on this planet the way I want to).

In any case, honoring our mothers should be done ALL the time (see this Valentine’s Day posts for my feelings on that holiday as well…), not just on one day, so in honor of Mother’s Day this past weekend, whether you celebrate the Latino version on Friday or the American one on Sunday, it’s a long, love-filled weekend to remember, think of and honor your mother in any way you can.

Celebrating my final year of my twenties has been both a terrifying and liberating excursion – I’m finding my own way, finding my own footing in this crazy world, and especially my own footing as an adult in this crazy world. None of who I am today would’ve been possible without the love and guidance from my mother, so this year’s Mother’s Day got me to thinking about my favorite lessons I’ve learned from my mother and bonus lessons from mother figures in my life who are no longer here in person, but with me always in spirit.

  1. Mom is always right
    • I know I’ve said this before, because it’s true. You are the cornerstone of their being, your best intentions are always at their heart
  2. In your toughest and most trying times, give it ALL to God
  3. Learn to love yourself, God put you here as a blessing. Love yourself and show the rest of the world how to love you.
  4. BE the light and love the world needs.
  5. Live and Love selflessly
  6. It’s okay to beat to the sound of your own drum
    • “So you’re just going to jump off a bridge if everyone else does it?” makes so much more sense now that I’m older
  7. Men aint $hit!! (JK!) But for real, my momma taught me what being a “lady boss” meant before it was even a thing:
    • A man will not save you. A man will not teach you to love yourself. You need something done? DO it yourself. Don’t know how to do it yourself? Learn it. You are NOT a Damsel in distress.
  8. Looks fade, but a beautiful mind is forever
    • My mom stressed the importance of education over everything else, this turned out to be useful in my ugly duckling phase of life. Now I’m a smart freaking swan, with a degree
  9. Laughter. Laughter is absolutely the best medicine.
  10. Everything is going to be OK in the end. If it’s not OK, it’s not the end.

Bonus Lessons :

  • Never leave the house or take a picture without applying your “lippie-stick”
    • Mi guelita linda
  • Always dress like a lady
    • Yiayia mou glykia
  • A positive attitude will take you farther than you ever thought you could make it
    • Nona mou, memory eternal

I’m too emotional for this!! I am so thankful for the lessons I’ve learned from the amazing women and mother figures in my life, especially the lessons I’ve learned from my own mother. This list is only a fraction of the many I’ve acquired over the years, but I can tell you all that I’ve learned stays with me always.

Mom – thank you for your love, your guidance, your patience, your support, your tenderness, your kindness, your fortitude, your courage, your determination and everything else you’ve given to me so whole-heartedly. I would be so lost without you, but know that you’ve given me the best foundation for which to live my life. Yesterday, today, tomorrow and forever, you are so precious to me.

What are some of your favorite lessons you’ve learned from your mother or the mother figures in your life? Do you celebrate Mexican Mother’s Day or American? Do you not celebrate Mother’s Day because you like to honor your mother every day in other ways? Hoping ALL the mothers – past, present, future, mother figures, grandmothers, tias, aunts, godmothers, hopeful mothers, yearning mothers, non-mothers, fur-moms, and every mother in between – had a WONDERFUL Mother’s Day 2019.

xoxo,

The Glam Greek

There’s a lot of mess in this world. We pray for love and peace, but really, it starts from within.

Same goes for when someone feels like they cant find someone for them, or they attract the same dead-end type of relationships.

As Rupaul said it, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna somebody else?”

I’ve often thought about my own love-hate relationship with Valentine’s Day. I hate that people who don’t have a Valentine date feel more “aware‘ of their single status. But I love the colors, and I just love the L O V E !

And then I thought, for so long, Valentine’s Day is about telling your crush you like them, or hoping to have that cute guy you keep bumping into at the deli to notice you and finally ask you out! If Valentine’s Day is all about love, why can’t you be your own date? Why can’t it be about loving yourself first?

It’s not about being selfish, because self care and self love, makes you a better person. It makes you a better friend, sister, daughter, companion, mother, aunt, cousin. When you can love yourself, you create the vibe in which you surround yourself.

There are SO many ways that you can treat yourself like the partner you deserve :

  • Take yourself shopping
  • Treat yourself to a glass of bubbly at a swanky downtown bar
  • Draw yourself a bath, add bubbles or milk, honey and rose petals
  • Light some aromatic candles and take a hot, steamy shower
  • Find some really smell-good lotions and serums to apply after your bath
  • Clean Linens
  • WORK OUT! Yoga or a quick meditation. I know it may sound weird, but try it
  • Journal – write down 10 things you like about yourself. Can be as simple and random as, “I like my earlobes” but write 10 things you like about yourself.
  • Put on some makeup, do your hair, and take some selfies. Take at least 20 and find a few that make you feel like a boss babe

So many ways to show yourself love, I don’t even know if I touched the tip of the iceberg.

I cleaned ALL my linens. From my mattress pads, to my sheets, to my quilt, to my throw blankets and sham covers. I got a pretty good work out in. I fed my body well today. I shaved, because I don’t have laser yet :(, exfoliated all over in a hot shower today, used my deep conditioner in my hair, used extra serums and I used my extra moisturizing lotion. I made sure to light some candles and I jotted down a couple things I love about myself. One of which read, “I love that you get so obsessed with memes that you can watch them over and over and still laugh after watching it 18 times.”

Love yourself down to the simplest thing!

This Valentine’s Day, I hope you find some ways to show love to the temple that you live your life in every day.

January felt like one big “Transition Tuesday” across all my social media feeds.

…Which I guess makes sense considering January is kind of like a transition month…

I chuckled at the photos, gasped at the changes, but most of all I liked to see everyone’s GLOW UPs! Or perhaps the person in the picture from now just looked more confident and happier than they were in the picture from 10 years prior. A lot of times, that’s what comes with age. It’s a great side-effect!

The 10 year challenge for me, and for most of the people on my social media feed, piggy backs a few short months after 10 year reunions for the class of 2008.

I didn’t go to my high school reunion. For various reasons, top of which was a scheduling conflict. And besides, it’s 2018! Everyone was on Facebook by the time we graduated, so needless to say, I’ve pretty much “kept up” with everyone from the day we graduated.

Funniest thing about not even going to my high school reunion was that I ran into more people from Cy-Falls Class of 2008 during 2018 than I have in YEARS! I remember one time in particular when I went couch shopping. I went in the morning to browse one place, fell in love with one that was comfy and well within my budget. I checked out a few more places, didn’t see anything I liked, so I went home to change & glam up for Father’s Day Dinner, and then to swing back by the store to order my living room furniture.

I remember events based on my makeup & what I wear

While waiting, I hear someone call my name. It was a friend of mine from high school, who I probably hadn’t seen since the summer after we graduated. We chatted for a bit, catching up on life. That evening after dinner, I went out with some friends and ran into a couple of other people while out at some bars that I literally hadn’t seen since probably AP English.. From that point, I had a NUMBER of blasts from the past.

The funniest part of it all, I was told numerous times from those interactions that I haven’t changed a bit.

HAHA!

I think back on 18/19 year old me and where I was at in my life – just finishing high school, dating a horrible boy who guised himself as someone worth of my love, so much to learn, my whole life ahead of me, adventures waiting…

She was such a precious young lady. Thinking about her makes me want to tell her a few things :

  • All your “friends” went out of town for college. So what? Make new friends. If they were really your friends, they would’ve done everything they could to stay in touch with you, encouraged you to go and visit them, or they would come back to Houston to visit you more often.
  • Do NOT feel bad about not getting into your “dream school”. Everything is in God’s will, if you didn’t get in, He probably has a different route for you. So enjoy the school you did get into & enjoy really getting to live in and explore your home town
  • Do NOT feel bad about not getting into your “dream school”. Everything is in God’s will, if you didn’t get in, He probably has a different route for you. So enjoy the school you did get into & enjoy really getting to live in and explore your home town
  • So what your school doesn’t have a “football” team or a strong organized sports team. Would you really care anyway? I know you might feel like you’re missing out on “real school spirit” or a more conventional way of making friends, but that means you can get creative or make friends from genuine common interests versus feigning interest in sports.
  • Commuting isn’t fun, but commuting from the ‘burbs to school each day will give you a head start on “Real Life” more than living on campus will
  • Don’t worry about not having partied “enough” in high school. There will be plenty of time for that. The cool kids who did all that in high school really will look worn down & out before their time. It gets old fast (and it makes you look old fast too! It kind of is like the movies – the cute guy from the “cool crowd” that you had a crush on all throughout high school will have a beer guy by Sophomore year from all the years of beers, trust me!) College parties are more fun anyway 
  • Dump Him! Don’t be afraid of hurting him, sure he’s a nice guy, but y’all are young. Both parties will move on. And sure as h*ll don’t be afraid, whatever happens, happens and you will get through it. You’ve got a lot of time and there are plenty of fish. Never forget this.
  • Study harder, get to know your professors better, join different “societies” & groups & stop thinking about that MRS degree or what’s going to happen after college. Boys & jobs WILL come…
  • NETWORKING IS EVERYTHING. Luckily, the first job you have out of college is rarely the one you’ll be at for the long haul, and having strong networking groups available for when you need to change careers will be critical
  • Save more!!! 
  • Dare I say it, Mom & Dad are right. About almost everything, and mostly Mom.
  • Keep working those makeup skills, baby doll. It’s a great hobby and you’ll get better at it. But with anything, keep at it!
  • Know what you deserve, and never settle for less than that. It will take some time to learn what that is, but you will figure it out. I promise.
  • ENJOY EVERY MINUTE! Right now it feels like you have a lifetime ahead of you, and you do! But then 10 years go by and you realize as life has gotten a little shorter, you will lose a few people between now and now… little, frivolous things that used to grind your gears no longer will, you’ll start to realize the fake friends, and your need and want to constantly try and impress people will diminish. You’ll grow more into who you truly are. The hard times will come, but you’ll make it through and it will reveal a part of your character you didn’t know you had. Or maybe you did, but you needed that experience to jolt it out of you. Never forget to keep on loving NUMBER ONE – YOU! – show the world how you should be loved and treated by demonstrating that same love and comfort to yourself and those around you. You will go so far.

Wow! I didn’t realize I had so much to say to 2008/2009 Maria. Writing to an 18/19 year old me feels a little like writing to a naïve little best friend J I’m not gonna lie, I got a little emotional on that last part. But it’s the best advice I could give myself – love yourself and you’ll find yourself. 

I’m so glad I didn’t know the things that I know now, I don’t know if I would’ve come out the way I did had I known it all. It’s been such a great journey. Cheers to the next 10 years. And Thank God for anti-aging skin care products!

xoxo

the Glam Greek

I’m sure by now you might’ve seen this meme

I haven’t just started seeing it this year, there were different versions for 2016, 2017, 2018… I seriously feel like this most years.

The last 3 months of the year are usually SO full of activities, events, meetings, parties, etc. that when January 1st rolls around, and I’m still in bed from being up WAY past my bedtime the night before, and hungover from thinking that an all night, champagne diet is a good idea, the last thing I want to do is get started on New Year’s “Resolutions” or getting my schedule/calendar going for the coming year.

This year I was particularly bad, I didn’t even get my 2019 planner or calendars until well into the 2nd week of the month!

I don’t have a brand of planners that I like, so I tried a new one I found from Office Depot by Emily Ley. What drew me to this planner first was the design, obvi! And second was the size. I’ve always gotten sort of thick planners, thinking it would give me enough room to keep notes in order to stay really organized, and floral designs were usually my thing!

I was wanting something simpler, smaller, thinner, so that I could take with me easily in a tote bag. Regardless of the design, I always prefer a weekly planner, with ample room to write for daily activities. After being pleased with this planner meeting those requirements, I flipped through the pages and found the rest of the planner amazing as well. A 2019 Holiday list, and a Bucket List (which I love so much more than “Resolutions”!), to-do lists EVERYWHERE, colorful tabs & icons, and even “instructions” on how to use it. I really loved the “Simplicity Tip” it gives for each month as well.

I use a lot of colored pens to keep my planner looking interesting, but I don’t necessarily have it color coded, lol! Yet. That and stickers will be my project for 2020 🙂

I keep a wall calendar for major things like birthdays, events, dinners, appointments, and vacations that I have planned. I will use the wall calendar from last year to transfer important dates to remember to update my new calendar, and then I update as things come along.

This year I’m trying a new thing with a very thin notebook one of my best girlfriends gifted to me for Christmas, where I keep a running to-do list, and other various notes that I jot down as they come to mind.

Don’t get me wrong, because pretty much this paper notebook is the equivalent to my Notes app, but there is something so satisfying about crossing out tasks with a pen.

This is the year I (hopefully) stay really organized in all aspects of my life –

  • I work full time
  • I run a blog
  • I run a skin care business
  • I like to have fun
  • I like to take days to relax

These aren’t a lot, but as time goes on, that list gets so much longer! And I’m trying to create good habits from now. Wish me luck!

How do you like to use planners to stay organized? I’d love suggestions for color-coding as well.

xoxo

La Glam Greek

It’s already been a full week into the new year and we’re well on our way into 2019, but I definitely feel like I needed a week recovery before really delving in, so this past Monday was really, like the “official” start, ya feel?

I finally bought a planner, and a wall calendar… I’ve only written like 4 things in it so far, but the one I got for this new year says to utilize this first month to reflect on last year because despite the lows, there were LOTS of highs and it was a heck of a good time!

January – March

  • I started my year at a new place inside the loop – I’m officially a city girl!
  • Started Festival Season at In Bloom Fest
  • Girls Trip to Vegas, went in almost as a complete stranger to this group and came out part of a She-Wolf pack. My heart was full!

April – June 

  • I bought my first big girl car
  • LA Trip/Coachella
  • Miss Houston Latina
  • Totally Rad 90’s party
  • Lake Travis

July – September

  • New dates <3
  • Ellada <3
  • Bachelorette Parties

October – December 

  • Greek Festival
  • Princess Maria Day – Twenty-Fine edition
  • Austin, TX
  • The Holidays…

I always feel that before I can really get into the new year, I have to look back at all that I did the year before. It’s something I’ve always done and puts me in a really good place! The latter part of 2017 left me in a dark spot, and I spent most of 2018 learning A LOT. But the ride was fun and I’m ready to keep learning, to keep evolving and for this book to keep going. Cheers to all that happened last year and cheers to all that’s to come.

xoxo

La Glam Greek